This morning was a huge eye-opener for me. I was sitting in the middle of my living room floor, playing with my daughter. She’s just figuring out how to crawl, and it melts my heart to watch her try! While watching her the whole time, I thought to myself how awesome this summer has been! I am lucky to have a job where I am off on the summers so I can spend a lot of time with her. She became cranky, so I rushed into the kitchen to make her cereal and bottle. And like a great superhero, I returned to the living room with sustenance for my baby girl! Super Mom here to save the day! I strapped her into her bouncy seat, placed a bib around her tiny little neck, and began to feed her cereal. She loves her cereal. As I was feeding her, I heard that familiar ding of Facebook Messenger coming from my phone. Without hesitation, I looked to see who it was. It was a preschool parent. Not wanting to have her wait a long time for my reply, I picked up my phone and typed an answer. Baby girl started to fuss, and that’s when it hit me. What am I doing?
I completely stopped feeding my little girl to answer a work message. It wasn’t a pressing matter, but I know my preschool parents count on me to give them answers in a timely fashion. I sacrificed time with my baby to deal with work. She watched me look at my phone. I blew what could have been such an amazing moment with my baby girl. It was a moment to show her that I was all hers. That mommy was here in the moment with her. But I wasn’t. She watched me pick up my phone and answer that message. I was sending her a message too. Work is more important than spending time with you. I can’t have that. Not one single bit of that. She will always be the most important thing in my life, and I have to stop sending her opposing messages.
A wise friend of mine told me I need to find balance in whatever I am doing in my life, and he’s absolutely right! I am fortunate enough to have a job I absolutely love. I actually wake up wanting to go to work. I haven’t had that until I started the job I have now. This year is going to be a little more difficult. I’m a first time mommy, starting a new direct sales business, and I’m figuring out how everything is going to work. I know with God’s grace, I will figure out a schedule that works great for me. I don’t want to sacrifice time with my family, but I also don’t want to sacrifice my school kiddos and parents. It’s going to be difficult, but I’m up for the challenge. I plan to make a schedule for dealing with work and business emails. I don’t want to sacrifice lots of time with my baby girl. She’s already growing too fast!
I know a lot of us are pulled in so many different directions. There needs to be a balance, or you will burn out quickly. For me, I need to learn to say no more often. I’m a kind of people-pleaser. I don’t like disappointing others, but this mentality has to change. I have to do what’s best for me and my family. My advice to you is find that balance quickly. The world is full of stress monsters waiting to pounce on you. Don’t let them win! Find that balance and maintain it! Pray or meditate about it. You’ll find that balance and make it work!